Wednesday Hodgepodge

Hi Guys! Thanks to Joyce for giving the Hodgepodgers something to talk about on a hot, humid July day!

1. July is National Anti-Boredom Month. When was the last time you were bored? What’s your go-to cure for boredom?
I am not bored very often, and to tell you the truth, I can’t remember when I last was. I have a lot of things I should and could be doing, but I also have a lot of things I like to do. Reading is good, Netflix is good, I sure do like my iPad, there is always something to occupy you there!

2. What’s the last thing you made a reservation for?
I don’t think I usually make reservations. Honey is in the process of reserving us a place to stay in Florida next winter. Would you believe things are already really booked up???!!!

3. What’s one thing on your summer ‘bucket list’? Any plans to make it happen?
We would like to rent a cottage up north in Michigan for all of us. It won’t happen this year, but someday:)

4. What’s your favorite summertime sip?

Nothing quenches my thirst like water. Sounds boring, but it’s the truth. I do like iced tea and the occasional Diet Coke though.
5. What do you find is the best way to handle another person’s hostility and hopefully ease the tension?

I am always surprised by open hostility. Some people need to figure out a different way of interacting with the world. What is it they are hoping to achieve with their unpleasantness? Most of the time no one knows what their problem even is. I am less likely to be inclined to listen or care about their situation if they are behaving in a way that is uncalled for or just mean. You should be able to express yourself calmly, rationally, and not go from 0 to 60 in the blink of an eye when you think someone has not done what YOU think they should have.

The problem with dealing with this sort of people is it probably doesn’t really matter what I do in dealing with them. They don’t usually even let you explain yourself, they are too busy going off on you. I have had situations where the other person was hostile, but I just treated them the way I had always treated them. It’s like I always told our kids, you can’t control other people, you can only control yourself. I am accountable to God for my behavior, not theirs.
6. Your favorite film set in summer?

I can’t pick one!!! Independence Day, Dirty Dancing, National Lampoon Vacation, The Parent Trap (with Lindsay Lohan), and I have to say I liked Live Free or Die Hard.
7. What word are you using too much lately?

Ok, I’m sorry but I am going to have to release myself from this question! I have already used too much brain activity to come up with exactly nothing! I know sometimes there is a word that is all prevalent and hogging the conversation, but that time is not now.
8. Insert your own random thought here.

I had the strangest conversation with my primary doctor yesterday. I told Honey that there must be a reason for it, but I am still not sure what it was.

I had a physical, she asked about the ongoing health issues that I am being treated for by another doctor, we talked about core strengthening activities like yoga and pilates, made sure I was up to date with mammograms and the lady doctor visits, inquired as to where I was in the process of menopause, listened to me breathe, refilled prescriptions for my troublesome back, gave me an order for blood work, the usual. We did not talk about about contraceptives because I have not needed to have that conversation for almost 20 years.

Just as we were finishing, she said something about something and said that it drives her crazy. I had to confess that I wasn’t sure what she was referring to. She said that it bothers her that insurance companies are willing to pay for Viagra but don’t want to pay for contraceptives.

I did not see that coming.

I asked if she was referring to the Hobby Lobby/Supreme Court case that has been in the news lately? She said yes and expounded even more about what her concerns were. We probably talked for 10-15 minutes about this, I think longer than my entire physical. She had some thoughtful points, she was not extreme in her views. I tried to present my thoughts clearly and without judgment. I said that this was a very complicated issue for people of faith, heck, not all people of faith are even of one mind about contraceptives.

There was discussion of when life begins, her Hindu faith, her husband’s Catholic faith, and my evangelical Christian faith. We talked about her inconvenient pregnancy, atrocities, things she had seen, straight talk she had given some patients,  learning to deal with unexpected things in life, and our complete agreement that if contraceptive is an opposed option, Viagra should be too. We clearly had differing views about many things, but it was civil and calm. I am pretty sure I didn’t change her opinions and I know she didn’t change mine. I was shooting up arrow prayers asking God to be with my words.

I came home and told Honey all about it. I don’t know why she started that conversation with me, I have no idea what triggered it. On reflection, I have thought of many things I maybe should have said, maybe some I should not have said, and wondered if I should have said some things differently. I can’t really second guess the situation now. God knows why we had the conversation. He can use the words as He sees fit.



  1. jodaley said,

    July 9, 2014 at 7:02 AM

    Well that is a little odd, but God does work sometimes in mysterious ways. Maybe she sensed you would listen thoughtfully?

    What you said about hostile people in that first paragraph-amen and amen. I was on the receiving end of something this year that still makes my stomach hurt when I think about it. I know it wasn’t about me, this person needed someone to unload on, and it happened to be me, but yuck. And it all felt super immature to me. I do my very best to avoid her now, which isn’t always possible but I try.

  2. Tammy Doane said,

    July 9, 2014 at 7:16 AM

    Amen-we can’t control other people’s reactions (even though I would love to) only the way we react to them.

  3. Judy said,

    July 9, 2014 at 9:00 AM

    That was quite a conversation with the doctor. We have a new doctor who is still getting to know us. Our old doctor watched me grow up.

  4. July 9, 2014 at 5:36 PM

    The reason that Viagra is covered is because it is used in the treatment of (I think) blood pressure. It has another medical use besides erectile dysfunction. Doctors will write a script for Viagra and put down that it’s for the other medical use so that it’s covered. Nurse Lauren filled me in on that one. 🙂

    Anyway, I think that God orchestrated that conversation with your doctor. I’m sure that it enabled her to listen to your point of view because you had a rational discussion about what you believe rather than turn hostile the minute someone disagreed with your position. He placed you there! 🙂

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